Little babies don't know anything about controlling their wettums and
messes, so just let things happen naturally, easily and without any fuss
or muss. As they get older they begin to associate the sensual
sensations of their bladder or bowels emptying, as it stimulates the
internal and external tactile nerves. Also the warm sensations of their
peepee as it empties, and soaks into their diapers cause their first
pleasurable "cause and effect" awareness. This is especially true for
boy babies, probably because their penis is stimulated by the warm, wet
diaper when they wet.
The biggest problem for most big babies, especially those who have been
toilet trained at an early age, is the sense of shame or humiliation at
wetting uncontrollably, or messing their pants. Diapers were probably
used as a threat, and became associated with "dirty, wrong, or bad" when
they were very young. Unfortunately many big babies try to wet or mess,
or force themselves to do so, and this causes a different type of
conscious and subconscious control, instead of helping them return to
the natural uncontrolled voiding of a real little baby..
These suggestions are designed to help the big baby learn to naturally
give up control and return to the normal, natural infantile way of
voiding.
Following these suggestions should help a big baby to begin using their
diapers naturally and easily in about two weeks to a month. These
suggestions can be used by baby alone, or under the supervision of their
parent figure. The goal is to simply and naturally undo the bad patterns
learned in early childhood and to replace them with the natural,
pleasurable habits and patterns present in an infant. Once natural
uninhibited voiding begins, continued use of these suggestions will
quickly and easily establish a natural, easy infantile pattern of
emptying the bladder and bowels, regardless of the type of undergarment
worn, but then babies always wear diapers.
Terms:
BIT : baby in training
Void : emptying of bladder or bowels
Potty device: any container like a toilet, potty seat,
urinal or
other manmade except diapers, used to hold voids.
Strictly prohibited for all BIT's.
DD: diaper dependent
When ready to start, begin wearing diapers at all times, night and day.
Cloth diapers and plastic or other waterproof pants are preferred but
disposables like DriPride, or Attends briefs are acceptable. Drink
regular amounts of non-alcoholic fluids, at least 8 ounces of water or
juice, 8 times a day, and two glasses within one hour of bedtime. Avoid
using potty from two hours before bedtime to bedtime. Once training is
begun, of course the potty is prohibited at all times. If natural
wetting occurs before bedtime this is acceptable and desirable.
Try to eat as much raw fruit or vegetables as possible and affordable to
help ensure good bowel regularity, and soft bowel movements.
Daytime Wetting, Naturally:
When you first consciously perceive the need to void, simply try not to
think about it. Think instead "I'm going to wet my diapers naturally. I
don't need to worry because I am wearing my thick, secure diapers." At
first you may feel the pressure building up almost unbearably. At this
point simply try to relax a bit, by deep breathing, in throughyour
nose, and out softly through your mouth, thinking "I can relax and let
my body respond naturally and normally to my full bladder."
Soon you will feel the first trickles of your natural void. DO NOT TRY
TO BEAR DOWN. JUST REMAIN RELAXED. It may just trickle and then stop,
and then start up in a few minutes. During the initial stages of
training this is perfectly natural, since you have learned a pattern of
"hold it until at the potty, then relax when it starts, bear down and
force it out." This is a learned, trained response taught during toilet
training when you were very young, and needs to be unlearned and a new,
more natural pattern established.
Each time you repeat the "trickle, stop, trickle" pattern, you will void
more peepee until your bladder begins to respond naturally with a "I
feel it getting full. Relax the sphincter, contract the bladder wall
muscles slightly. Let it out easily." This is the normal, natural way a
baby's bladder empties. Their bladder is not so elastic or stretchy,
from years of "holding it", so the sphincter just relaxes, the bladder
wall presses slightly and they empty their peepee into their diapers.
As you become aware of your bladder emptying think "Oh that feels nice.
I like the warm feelings of wetting my diapers. Wetting naturally feels
good, pleasant. I want to do this again and again."
As you feel your bladder emptying more naturally once you begin to
establish the new, natural patterns [usually in just 3 to 4 days],
really concentrate on the sensations as your bladder responds to the
presence of peepee at the sphincter opening, relaxing the sphincter,
letting the peepee flow out easily, gently, naturally. Feel and
concentrate on the sensations as your peepee flows into your diaper and
your diaper soaks it up, spreads it around your front, crotch and bum,
making the diaper all nice and warm and wet.
Tell yourself how nice and enjoyable it feels, and how pleasant it makes
you feel to wet your diapers naturally, easily and uncontrollably.
DO NOT TRY AND STOP IT AS IT HAPPENS. LET IT HAPPEN NATURALLY, FULLY AND
EASILY, WITHOUT CONSCIOUS EFFORT.
Nighttime Wetting, Naturally:
Frankly this is harder to establish than daytime wetting. While babies
take more time to be nighttime trained, than daytime, this is due to
their sleep patterns, not bladder control. The goal is to remain
sleeping while voiding and to wake in the morning with nice warm wet,
and maybe even messy diapers.
Drinking 12 to 16 ounces of clear fluid like water or juice during the
one hour before bedtime will ensure the kidneys continue to produce
peepee while you sleep, instead of slowing down, as is part of the
physical aging process. Unless you haven't voided for two hours or more,
you should not feel uncomfortable at bedtime drinking this amount of
fluid prior to bedtime.
While lying in bed and getting ready to sleep, try to picture the
pleasant "surprise" of waking up nice and wet and warm in the morning.
Picture yourself sleeping happily, soundly, contentedly ALL NIGHT LONG,
without waking up until it is time to get up. If possible, take your
soother to bed with you and use it at night. The suckling will establish
a subconscious "I am drinking my bottle, and will wet while I drink to
make room." idea, which is natural for little babies.
Concentrate on the image of sleeping soundly, contentedly and happily as
you go to sleep, and try to picture the joy and pleasant sensations of
waking up in nice, warm, wet diapers. You will probably wake the first
few nights, when your subconscious senses the need to void. Just relax
and let it happen as you do during the day. The sensations of wetting
lying on your side, back or tummy are much different than wetting
sitting or standing during the day, so concentrate on these nice, new
pleasant sensations, and tell yourself how good it feels, how nice it
feels, and how good it will feel when you wake up in the morning in your
nice, thick, warm, wet diapers.
Try to picture yourself remaining asleep as you wet, and "pretend" you
are still sleeping. After you wet your diaper, relax again, and picture
this happening while you sleep soundly, contentedly, and happily. Soon
this is exactly how it will happen. It may take a few days [average 5 to
6 from my experience] for you to sleep soundly through the night, and to
wet naturally in your sleep. You may find yourself waking a while after
you have wet, if your diaper begins to cool down, and this sensation
wakes you, but often the slight coolness of the wet diaper just causes
another void, to "warm it up" and make it feel nice
again.
When you wake in the morning take a few minutes to concentrate on the
sensations and feelings of waking in nice, warm, wet diapers, and reward
yourself by thinking or saying positive things like "Good I'm learning
to wet my diapers in my sleep like a little baby. I am a happy baby now,
who wets in his sleep. I like the feeling of waking in warm wet
diapers."
Messy Diaper Tips:
I suggest you purchase a dozen or so baby flat fold diapers [around 24
by 30 inches flat], and place it unfolded inside the regular diaper for
a diaper liner. Most babies have a pattern for voiding, say after
breakfast, or during the afternoon, or after dinner. Once your pattern
is established, ensure the regular diaper is lined to make clean up much
easier.
Messing is much easier than most people think. Especially if you eat a
healthy diet with lots of fibre and roughage to ensure soft, easy voids.
Not too much so you get the runs, which is unhealthy, but just soft,
regular movements once or more a day.
Use the same "positive conditioning" mental rewards as used for wetting,
and when you feel the need to void, again just relax. It may pass for a
moment or two, then come back a little stronger. Each time, just relax.
Concentrate on the sphincter muscle that has been trained to tighten
until you are on a potty, and concentrate on just relaxing this little
muscle.
DO NOT BEAR DOWN, OR TRY TO FORCE THINGS "OUT". THIS IS NOT NATURAL, AND
CAN RUIN THE NATURAL TRAINING. Just relax the sphincter and again try
deep natural breaths to help you relax yourself.
You may find it easier to void standing, or crawling. DO NOT SQUAT, or
pretend to be sitting on a potty. This again places strain on the
muscles, resulting in a bearing down action that is unnatural, requires
"control". As you begin to void, there will be a learned tendency to try
and tighten the sphincter muscle. Again just relax. Tell yourself "I'm
going to poopoo my diaper. I like poopooing my diaper. It feel so good.
I like messing my diapers as a baby." You will be rewarded.
As you mess your diaper concentrate on the feelings of helplessness at
messing your little diapers as a baby. Concentrate on the sensations of
messing helplessly and feeling the soft, gooey void filling the seat and
crotch of your diapers and smearing on your little bum. Tell yourself
how nice and good this feels, and how babyish it is to mess your
diapers, how babyish YOU are to mess your diapers.
Good baby you wet and mess your diapers, naturally, now.
A few more times and you will begin to think "Oh, me go poopoo didee" as
your subconscious feels the need to void, and your body becomes
retrained and the poopoo just naturally passes by your relaxed sphincter
into your soft diapers. Naturally you will wet your little diapers after
you void, as all babies do.
Do not stay in messy diapers for more than a few minutes. NEVER PLAY
WITH YOURSELF IN MESSY DIAPERS. THIS IS BAD, and baby will be
punished.
During clean up, it does smell a bit unpleasant, but remind yourself how
good it FEELS, and how babyish your FEEL at messing your diapers. Be
sure to wash off your bum, crotch and entire diaper area with warm water
and mild soap, or with Baby Wipes and get it all clean and sweet
smelling. Put baby lotion or oil, and baby powder on baby's diaper area,
and then a nice thick soft diaper and plastic panties so baby is well
protected again.
Remove the diaper liner from the diaper and rinse it in the toilet,
flushing the poopoo away. If baby voided so much that the regular diaper
got messy too, then rinse the soiled area in the toilet as well. Wring
out the rinsed liner and/or diaper and put them in a plastic baggie to
put in your diaper bag. Wash your hands real well with soap and water
and put the rest of your clothes on.
Now you're all ready to go play again, until your next diaper
change.
Conclusion:
The suggestions above are really just practical suggestions that more or
less follow the regular training methods used by mommies to train little
babies, only in reverse. You reward yourself and reinforce the "good,
nice" sensations and feelings of wetting and messing your diapers. You
reward yourself for wetting and messing your diapers.
It is not initially possible to "ignore" the conscious awareness of
needing to void, but by telling yourself to relax and "let it happen"
you will find your subconscious, the part that actually learned control
and controls the behaviour responses, begins to accept and adopt the new
patterns and responses until you do just void unconsciously. A few days
to a week of unconscious natural voiding and you will be wetting and
messing just like a little baby. Continue rewarding yourself mentally
for being such a good baby, and wetting and messing yourself naturally
and easily, and you will never feel ashamed or humiliated or embarrassed
about what you now can do.
Should your mommy or daddy decide it's time for baby to learn to use the
potty and start keeping his/her diapers clean or dry during the day, it
will take anywhere from a week to a couple of weeks for baby to relearn
toilet training, depending on how long baby has been wetting and messing
naturally. If it's been a few months, then a week should be sufficient.
If a year or so, a couple of weeks might be necessary to ensure more
childlike control.
If several years, then baby'd better just make sure he/she has some
plastic panties in his/her diaper bag, "just in case". Accidents will
happen.
Once nighttime diaper training is successful, establishing "dry nights"
may take a few weeks. Use normal common sense like reducing evening
fluid intake, void before bedtime, but wear a diaper for the first few
nights until you wake dry. Then try just a diaper with no plastic
panties, and finally regular panties or training panties.
To be honest, most retrained babies find occasional nighttime accidents
are normal, especially if they are very tired, or have imbibed alcohol
during the evening. Sleeping soundly just seems to result in a nice warm
wet bed or diaper the next morning.
Do not use drugs, laxatives, suppositories or catheters and such during
training. Frankly these are not necessary at any time, and the dangers
from infections, abuse to the body or damage to natural rhythms and
systems far outweighs their effect.
Stay Wet and Happy
Mikey and Michelle